Behind the Smile

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There I was, sitting alone on an air mattress in my apartment, tears streaming down my face. Divorced. Barely keeping the lights on. Estranged from my family. And fighting an autoimmune disease that felt like my own body had turned against me.

I wasn't just at rock bottom. I was under it.

I knew no one was coming to save me, so I started changing the way I spoke to myself. I stopped letting my circumstances decide who I was allowed to become. And little by little, I began making choices from the perspective of the woman I wanted to be instead of the woman my past had convinced me I was.

It took years to rebuild my life. My income doubled, then doubled again. My rheumatoid arthritis went into remission. I ended a cycle of unhealthy relationships and, three weeks after deciding I was finally ready to make room for something different, I met the love of my life.

Then life humbled me again.

When I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis again, along with lupus, I asked myself a different question: What had actually worked the first time?

That was when it clicked.

Boundaries had changed my life—but not just boundaries with other people. I had been setting boundaries with myself. With the version of me still clinging to outdated beliefs, old habits, fear, shame, and an identity that no longer fit who I needed to become.

That was the plot twist in my story.

Setting internal boundaries around what I believed about myself, how I spoke to myself, what I was willing to tolerate from myself, and which version of me got to make my decisions made it easier to hold boundaries everywhere else.

And when life threw me another curveball, I knew how to return to that work.

That is why I do this. Not because I read about it. Because I lived it. Then I built a method around it so you don't have to figure it out alone.

My mission is simple: to help women build boundaries for a life their future self will thank them for.

You already know what needs to change.

Now let's make sure you can stand on it.